There are frameworks that you can use to aid your reflective process. Alternatively, you may want to create your own. It needs to be a set of questions that you can ask yourself about an experience, plus a process by which you apply and learn from your reflection.
If you use one of these frameworks you could write about that explicitly when you are asked to reflect. You might say, 'Following Gibbs' (1988) advice, I designed an action plan in order to...'
Reflection before, during and after a learning process (Schon, 1983)
Graham Gibbs (1988) created a reflective learning cycle, including the role of feelings: